Where have all my Alcoholic friends gone?
Now that I have been in Alcoholic recovery 27 years, I wonder all those people who were my friends when I was drinking, where have they all gone. I don’t see them around anymore. It is obvious we travel in different circles. They are still in the bars drinking and simply put – I am not. I don’t even see them around town, or get a phone call from all these great fiends I thought I had when I was an active Alcoholic. I don’t hear from my old “drinking buddies” at all. I really thought at the time that these people were my friends, but I guess not. They are not on my radar, and I am certainly not on theirs. So what does that tell you about our friendship in the first place.
It had one thing in common, “booze.” When I was no longer out there drinking every night, I was no longer part of the gang. And all those people I thought were my friends dropped my like a “hot potato.”
So where is the moral to the story?
All these friends you have when you are out there using or drinking are your friends only while you are in the bar with them supporting their behavior. Just as they were supporting your Alcoholic behavior. All those people I thought were my friends have not given me a second thought now that I am sober and no longer part of the “party” scene. So please don’t kid yourself, all the people you are hanging out with now if you are drinking and drinking are only your friends because you are there hanging out participating in the “action.” If you get out, and I suggest you do, move on with your plans to try and gain sobriety and see how many of your old friends still want to hang around with you. Find out how many of those friends were really “true” friends.
I am sad to report if you can find 2 or 3 you will be lucky. Most of the people you did all your drinking with are still out there drinking and they don’t have time for you being all “clean and sober.” Give it a go and find out how many real friends you have on the drinking scene. The answer is not very many, if any. Grow up, take responsibility, and get sober. Go to AA Meetings. go to rehab. Give sobriety a chance, and don’t worry about losing your friends. They never really were your friends in the first place.
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